The essays
Read by topic
Six topics, in the order of the book’s chapters. 9 essays are here in full; the rest open here and finish in the book.
Chapter 1 · Noticing the wound
A fraction of who I am
Comparison, living by someone else's script, and the wanting and waiting that keep you small.
7 essays, 5 free in full
There's a state a lot of people live in without ever naming it. You're not really living, but you're not dying either. You're half alive and half dead.
Everyone feels rushed, but no one is asking: where are you rushing to? I think one of the most important things in life is to be able to slow down. Our…
By making your own imprint onto this world by way of output and giving and creative endeavours, the world you help create is richer with your…
There are mornings I wake up underneath a crushing weight which I can't seem to name nor quite shake. It's like an undercurrent of emotions telling me…
*On the inner deficit that creates the outer wanting, and the decision to stop waiting for what only the self can give*
Like most people, I scrolled through LinkedIn and Instagram and felt the dread wash over me.
We weren't meant to be living the way we do. Most of us feel it. And most of us feel we don't have a choice.
Chapter 2 · The struggle
Behind lucid eyes
Facing what hurts instead of hiding it: dark thoughts, the shadow, friendships that end, and seasons that pass.
6 essays, 2 free in full
We were born to be fearless, to pursue the greatest things that are available to us, to pursue what is most meaningful to us. Yet we all know there are a…
I don't know why I have such a dark perspective behind my lucid eyes. I am building something that is meant to be a light for lost souls, and yet I carry…
I remember bracing myself for an attack that never came.
I used to say it all the time: those were the best years. I said it like a fact. And for the rest of that day, nothing in front of me stood a chance.
A friend once told me that some people you meet in life are here for a season only. I never expected it to apply to the friend who said it. Once I…
You may be screaming into your pillow in agony and frustration. That's okay. Sometimes it's necessary.
Chapter 3 · Taking it back
Water the grass in front of you
Dropping blame, framing events as neutral, choosing where attention goes, and seeing that identity can change fast.
6 essays, 1 free in full
Gratitude is underrated as fuck. Perhaps modern society has rendered it “wishy-washy”, a bit cringe, but on application to your life, you notice insane…
Self-blame is destruction dressed as accountability. The difference between self-blame and responsibility is radical. One dismantles you. The other…
We label a job loss as "bad" before we have even left the building. The word arrives that fast, and once it is there, we stop looking at what is actually…
The grass is not greener on the other side. It is greener where you water it, and attention is the water: your awareness, your deliberate thinking, poured…
Most of what you call "who I am" is a habit of thinking you have repeated long enough to mistake for a fact.
We are taught to trust slow change. Slow and steady, one small habit at a time. But some changes don't ask permission to go slowly.
Chapter 4 · Surrender
The cost of fighting yourself
The addiction to stress and resistance, and why becoming yourself is the simplest and the most demanding thing.
1 essay
Chapter 5 · Letting go
Sit still enough to hear it
No longer trying to shine, stepping aside from wanting, and coming home to the quiet voice underneath.
2 essays
For years I had more ideas than I could write down and not the nerve to put a single one into the world. I called it not being ready yet. It was something…
Nobody teaches you to step aside. Not your parents, not your school. You are taught to push, to chase, to accumulate.
Chapter 6 · Contentment
Contentment, the only destination
Living it: presence, meaning found by acting in the world, and a soul that was never broken.
4 essays, 1 free in full
You need to be kind to yourself. Kindness to yourself is a very important skill set, and it requires you to understand that even if you might be doing…
Somewhere between one tree and the next, something opens.
There is a difference between reality and actuality. Reality is how your life looks from the inside. Actuality is what is happening.
Much of what I read in self-development, spirituality and metaphysics rests on one quiet assumption: that something is fundamentally wrong with you. That…
Where to start
What are you carrying?
The questions people bring here, and the chapter that answers each one.
Comparison, living by someone else's script, and the wanting and waiting that keep you small.
Facing what hurts instead of hiding it: dark thoughts, the shadow, friendships that end, and seasons that pass.
Dropping blame, framing events as neutral, choosing where attention goes, and seeing that identity can change fast.
The addiction to stress and resistance, and why becoming yourself is the simplest and the most demanding thing.
No longer trying to shine, stepping aside from wanting, and coming home to the quiet voice underneath.
Living it: presence, meaning found by acting in the world, and a soul that was never broken.
The book
Sit Still Enough to Hear It
Every essay above, finished and in order: twenty essays in six chapters. The book is being finished.
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